Robert J Waldinger quotes

Poor parenting may be reflected in poor sibling relationships.

It turns out that people who are more socially connected to family, to friends, to community, are happier, they're physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected.

Once you've taken account of the quality of sibling relationships, knowing about the quality of parenting doesn't add much information.

Marriage is actually one of the things that keeps you happy.

People who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their health declines earlier in midlife, their brain functioning declines sooner, and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely.

It's not just the number of friends you have, and it's not whether or not you're in a committed relationship. It's the quality of your close relationships that matters.

As we grow up, we're constantly defining ourselves. In my case: Caucasian, male, born in Iowa, live in Boston, Zen Buddhist, good at learning languages. With countless labels, I build up this creation I call my self.

The good life is built with good relationships.

Insurance companies, government agencies, and the pharmaceutical industry all push for mental health care that is brief, intermittent, and focused on quick fixes, despite the fact that many people struggle with emotional difficulties that can only be addressed over time using special psychodynamic skills.

A troubled marriage can be as hazardous to physical health as cigarette smoking.

Sibling relationships have been underemphasised in learning about child development.

Insurance companies, government agencies, and the pharmaceutical industry all push for mental health care that is brief, intermittent, and focused on quick fixes, despite the fact that many people struggle with emotional difficulties that can only be addressed over time using special psychodynamic skills.

A troubled marriage can be as hazardous to physical health as cigarette smoking.

When it comes to health care policy, we keep failing to take seriously the value of human relationships. The cost of this oversight is staggering.

Far from the stereotype that psychodynamic treatments are appropriate only for the 'worried well,' a growing body of evidence points to their efficacy in dealing with the most pressing mental health problems of our time.