Around a third of parents still worry that they will look like a bad mother or father if their child has a mental health problem. Parenting is hard enough without letting prejudices stop us from asking for the help we need for ourselves and our children.
Copy Quote View & ShareI don't think my father considered allowing a teenager to follow his dreams was necessarily good parenting, or even parenting. I think he thought I was a teenager with teenage impulses. I'm pretty sure he knew that if he just let me follow those impulses, it would wind up being very expensive and perhaps even life-endangering.
Copy Quote View & ShareIt's a huge change for your body. You don't even want to look in the mirror after you've had a baby, because your stomach is just hanging there like a Shar-Pei.
Copy Quote View & ShareIronically, parenting is a shame and judgment minefield precisely because most of us are wading through uncertainty and self-doubt when it comes to raising our children.
Copy Quote View & ShareThe Golden Rule of Parenting is; do unto your children as you wish your parents had done unto you!
Copy Quote View & ShareMy husband's a pediatrician, so he and I talk about parenting all the time. You can't raise children who have more shame resilience than you do.
Copy Quote View & ShareDon't reward bad behavior. It is one of the first rules of parenting. During the financial cataclysm of 2008, we said it differently. When we bailed out banks that had created their own misfortune, we called it a 'moral hazard,' because the bailout absolved the bank's bad acts and created an incentive for it to make the same bad loans again.
Copy Quote View & ShareWhat lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.
Copy Quote View & ShareWhile not impossible, it is especially challenging for teenage parents to develop bonds with their children. A high percent of them were themselves children of teenage parents and have never experienced appropriate parenting.
Copy Quote View & ShareDon't judge other people. For example, if you want God's anointing to be on you for parenting, you need to be careful not to criticize other parents.
Copy Quote View & ShareMy approach to parenting is the same as my approach to life: it's all about putting in the hours and working hard.
Copy Quote View & ShareIf I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard on each other because we're using each other as a launching pad out of our own perceived deficiency.
Copy Quote View & ShareI do not think there was anything abusive in my house. Yet, I stand by a lot of my critiques of Western parenting. I think there's a lot of questions about how you instill true self-esteem.
Copy Quote View & ShareToo often, our societal norms still set up a false choice between parenting and professionalism.
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