To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.
Copy Quote View & ShareThe thing about parenting rules is there aren't any. That's what makes it so difficult.
Copy Quote View & ShareI'm not a parenting expert. In fact, I'm not sure that I even believe in the idea of 'parenting experts.' I'm an engaged, imperfect parent and a passionate researcher. I'm an experienced mapmaker and a stumbling traveler. Like many of you, parenting is by far my boldest and most daring adventure.
Copy Quote View & ShareMy kids love it. I thought I was the coolest dad in the world when I got to be in a Bond film, but 'Harry Potter', too? Well, I think I qualify for a medal for exceptional parenting or something, don't you?
Copy Quote View & ShareShould kids check phones at dinner? I don't know. To me, that's a parenting choice.
Copy Quote View & ShareWe put more emphasis on who can drive a car than on who can be a parent. And I think there ought to be mandatory parenting classes starting in high school, and you should have to have a license to be able to be a parent to explain that you don't give alcohol to kids.
Copy Quote View & ShareI told my kids when they were little, 'Look, kids, your mother and I are screwing you up somehow. We don't understand how, or we wouldn't do it. But we're parents. So somehow we're damaging you, and I want you to know that early. So just ignore me when I go to that part of my parenting.'
Copy Quote View & ShareYou can make sure your kids make their beds and hang up their clothes and put their dishes in the dishwasher when you're the one calling the shots. So, parenting alone, for me anyway, I think is almost easier, being single.
Copy Quote View & ShareThe number of stressors has multiplied exponentially: traffic, money, success, work/life balance, the economy, the environment, parenting, family conflict, relationships, disease. As the nature of human life has become far more complicated, our ancient stress response hasn't been able to keep up.
Copy Quote View & ShareI have a neuroscience background - that's what my doctorate is in - and I was trained to study hormones of attachment, so I definitely feel my parenting is informed by that.
Copy Quote View & ShareMy daughter's position in our household is definitely higher than mine. I listen to her a lot. I guess you can say that's my parenting style.
Copy Quote View & ShareFor me, conscious parenting is staying attuned to your child, being really open and in the moment. It means staying as present as possible in your own breath for the betterment of your whole family.
Copy Quote View & ShareAsian American success is often presented as something of a horror - robotic, unfeeling machines psychotically hellbent on excelling, products of abusive tiger parenting who care only about test scores and perfection, driven to succeed without even knowing why.
Copy Quote View & ShareI've met many rich kids over the years. Many are very down to earth and work hard; they come from decent parenting. Others, however, are not.
Copy Quote View & SharePeople who choose not to have kids do so because they respect the job of parenting so much that they know not to take it on if they know it's not something that they're up for, and I don't know what to be a bigger tribute to parenting than that.
Copy Quote View & ShareMy dad was not super-intentional in his parenting. He was very self-absorbed. I won't say mean or selfish per se, but very self-absorbed. I think he was just thinking out loud.
Copy Quote View & ShareMy childhood should have taught me lessons for my own fatherhood, but it didn't because parenting can only be learned by people who have no children.
Copy Quote View & ShareAbortion is defended today as a means of ensuring the equality and independence of women, and as a solution to the problems of single parenting, child abuse, and the feminization of poverty.
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